WHEN A MAN IS IN LOVE WITH A WOMAN 1. He makes it clear to her because he wants to secure her for himself 2. His conversations with her will not be just about sex3. He will hate it when she talks negatively about herself. Why is she putting down the Queen he loves?4. He will be open and transparent to prove to her that she can trust him because her peace is important to him5. He will protect her from himself, his family and his friends 6. He will work hard to make her proud because her admiration inspires him to do more 7. He will drop off or keep a distance from friends who she is uncomfortable with 8. He will listen to her counsel and value her opinion even if he will not live by it and he will lovingly and respectfully explain to her when he doesn’t agree with her9. He will allow her to be there for him because he knows he needs her10. He will make time for her even if for a short while and will communicate when he can’t because he doesn’t want her to think he is too busy for her11. He will hurt when he hurts her and will be quick to apologise 12. He will make an attempt to be a better man in the areas she complains about. He may not be perfect but you will see effort13. Those who bless her will bless him, those who wrong her will wrong him. Her battles and victories will become his14. He will seek to understand her emotional wounds and help her heal15. He will not stand in the way of her growth. He will actually challenge her to be better 16. He waters her with compliments and praise, boosting her self-esteem17. He puts down his ego and gets to serve her because he loves making her smile 18. He will love her in a manner that pleases the God who created her

THE FIFTEEN RULES OF MARRIAGE1. Before you see the wrong in your spouse, see also your wrong. It makes you fair and balanced 2. Before you correct your spouse, appreciate your spouse. It makes your correction better received 3. Before you accuse your spouse of something, have concrete proof. Too many people are accusing their spouse falsely based on feelings, suspicion and insecurities. If you have questions, ask without forming conclusions 4. Before you claim your spouse is distant, check if you have pushed him/her away5. Before you claim your spouse is secretive, ask yourself if you are easy to talk to – calm, non-judgmental and empathetic6. Don’t protect a friend at the cost of hurting your spouse. It shows your spouse he/she has value. It is very easy to take your spouse for granted7. Don’t let how you treat your spouse be determined by how your spouse treats you. This only makes you hold back the best of your love and leads to tit for tat. Marriage is built by husband and wife both choosing to be the bigger person 8. Don’t let a day go by without asking your spouse “How are you?” Or checking up on your spouse. It oils the marriage9. Don’t take a back seat and relax in marriage, your marriage will whither without effort. It takes being intentional to keep a marriage healthy and strong10. Don’t treat your spouse based on how your in-laws treat you. Your in-laws might not like you, but your spouse loves you11. Do to your spouse what you want your spouse to do to you12. Do love your spouse the way your spouse wants to be loved, not the way you think your spouse ought to be loved13. Do the things you promised you would do. It makes your word more trusted and moves the marriage further14. Do use your money, your phone, your success, your strengths to love on your spouse; not to hurt your spouse15. Do make time for your marriage. Your old age as a couple will be shaped by how you invested time in your marriage over the years💛