Learn to listen

If a man does not understand how a woman is different, he can make things worse

when he is trying to help.

[Men need to remember that women talk about problems to get close and not necessarily to get solutions]

So many times a woman just wants to share her feelings about her day, and her husband,

thinking he is helping, interrupts her by offering a steady flow of solutions to her problems.

He has no idea why she isn’t pleased.

DAY-1

For example, Mary comes home from an exhausting day.

She wants and needs to share her feelings about the day.

She says, “There is so much to do; I don’t have any time for myself.”

Tom says, “You should quit that job. You don’t have to work so hard.

Find something you like to do.”

Mary says, “But I like my job.

They just expect me to change everything at a moment’s notice.”

Tom says, “Don’t listen to them. just do what you can do.”

Mary says, “I am! I can’t believe I completely forgot to call my aunt today.”

Tom says, “Don’t worry about it, she’ll understand.”

Mary says, “Do you know what she is going through? She needs me.”

Tom says, “You worry too much, that’s why you’re so unhappy.”

Mary angrily says, “I am not always unhappy. Can’t you just listen to me?”

Tom says, “I am listening.”

Mary says, “Why do I even bother?”

After this conversation, Mary was more frustrated than

when she arrived home seeking intimacy and companionship.

Tom was also frustrated and had no idea what went wrong.

 He wanted to help, but his problem solving tactics didn’t work.

Without knowing about life on Venus, Tom didn’t understand how important it was just to listen

without offering solutions. His solutions only made things worse. You see, Venusians never offer solutions

when someone is talking. A way of honoring another Venusian is to listen patiently with empathy,

seeking truly to understand the other’s feelings.

Tom had no idea that just listening with empathy to Mary express her feelings

would bring her tremendous relief and fulfillment. When Tom heard about the Venusians

 and how much they needed to talk, he gradually learned how to listen.

DAY-2

When Mary now comes home tired and exhausted their conversations are quite different.

They sound like this:

Mary says, “There is so much to do. I have no time for me.”

Tom takes a deep breath, relaxes on the exhale, and says,

 “Humph, sounds like you had a hard day.”

Mary says, “They expect me to change everything at a moment’s notice.

I don’t know what to do.”

Tom pauses and then says, ” “Hmmm.”

Mary says, “I even forgot to call my aunt.”

Tom says with a slightly wrinkled brow, “Oh, no.”

Mary says, “She needs me so much right now. I feel so bad.”

Tom says, “You are such a loving person. Come here, let me give you a hug.”

Tom gives Mary a hug and she relaxes in his arms with a big sigh of relife.

She then says, “I love talking with you. You make me really happy.

Thanks for listening. I feel much better.”

Not only Mary but also Tom felt better.

He was amazed at how much happier his wife was when he finally learned to listen.

With this new awareness of their differences, Tom learned the wisdom of listening

without offering solutions while Mary learned the wisdom of letting go and accepting

without offering unsolicited advice or criticism.

 

5 worst relationship mistakes

 

Women are from Venus and men are from Mars so it’s no surprise that we 

sometimes run into a few difficulties when trying to co-exist on Earth. 

There are some key behavioural traits you should avoid flaunting if you 

want to avoid relationship meltdown. Here are five of the most common 

relationship faux pas:

Relationship mistake 1: 

Expecting a fairy tale

 

A common pitfall is to treat your relationship as though it exists in a fairytale and 

then fly off the handle at the slightest blip when you realise you’re back in reality. 

We grew up believing that relationships were all about the perfect man, the perfect 

woman and a love story punctuated by a choir of singing mice – thanks for that, 

Cinderella – but it’s important to make the transition between fiction and reality if 

your relationship is to run smoothly. Expecting sparkling carriages and perfect 

women in our relationships sounds great but makes for a pretty disappointing 

shock when we find ourselves dealing with arguments and our other half’s

 morning breath. Keep your fictional mindset at bay when it comes to relationships 

and you will avoid one serious love life blunder.

 

Relationship mistake 2: 

Cheating 

When it comes to relationship mistakes, cheating is a serious deal breaker. Once 

the dirty deed has been done the relationship has been tainted and you’re either

a liar or a cheat, depending on whether you confess or not. If your partner cheats

and you’re the victim, it’s going to lead to feelings of resentment, upset and anger,

which isn’t a great foundation for a long and happy relationship. Cheating isn’t

pleasant for either party and it certainly isn’t an ingredient in the recipe for a l

oving relationship. If you’re thinking about doing the dirty on your significant other,

you probably shouldn’t be together in the first place.

 

 

Relationship Mistake 3: 

Not having a life of your own

Your relationship should enhance your life, not rule it, and feeling that 

you are unable to enjoy your time away from your other half suggests 

that your relationship is ruling your life. Other common indicators of 

this are that your plans are always dictated by what your partner is doing, 

you’re not seeing your friends and family as much as you used to and your 

future goals have taken a back seat. As much as you may love spending 

time together, too much of it can leave you both feeling fed up and eventually 

lead to feelings of resentment. While it’s important to make special time for 

your relationship, you also need to make sure you have time apart to miss 

each other and live your own lives – this makes it even more special when 

you see each other again and share the experiences you had when you were apart.

 

Relationship mistake 4: 

Snooping

Thinking of snooping through your partner’s texts or having a sneaky

peek at their Facebook messages? Hold your horses, because this is a

whopping relationship mistake. Anyone who looks through their partner’s

private messages or emails risks making their partner feel smothered and

as though they can’t be trusted. This behavior rarely ends well either;

snoopers have a habit of reading between the lines (or the texts, in this case)

and blowing things out of proportion. A text from your partner to their boss –

who happens to be a member of the opposite sex – that reads “okay , see you later”

doesn’t mean “can’t wait to meet you for that hot date tonight” as it would through

a snooper’s eyes. If you feel like you need to pry into your partner’s business,

your relationship is headed for the rocks. If your partner is snooping on you,

it may be time to have a word with them.

 

relationship mistake no:5

NAGGING

When you first met your partner, you were attracted to their laid back 

personality and ability to help you relax when you’re usually running 

around like a headless chicken. Now, you can’t get them up off the 

sofa to clean up their mess and you’re starting to wish your other half 

wasn’t so lazy. It’s common to start resenting the things that first attracted 

you to your partner as you advance into the relationship, but you either 

have to learn to live with it or part ways. If not, you end up trying to change 

that person by nagging at them all the time, which eventually leads to 

resentment and can grind you both down. While it may be worth having a 

word with your partner about what’s annoying you, you can’t make them 

change unless they really want to.

 

Fear Factor – An interesting Article – The Economic Times

I am a senior manager who has been given a mandate to reduce my workforce. I have to choose the employees to be fired from my team this week. No matter what I tell them, they will feel hurt and curse me for wreaking havoc on their families and their careers. How do I deal with this guilt and make it less painful for all of us

 

In the Mahabharata, when the Pandava brothers inherit a forest, Khandava-prastha, and want to build on it a great city, named Indra-prastha, the city of Indra, Krishna says, “Then burn the forest. Set aflame every plant, every animal, every bird and every bee. Offer them to agni. “When the Pandavas express their horror at the suggestion, Krishna says, “Then do not dream of a city.”

 

Hunger (bhook) demands food (bhog).Consumption demands sacrifice (bali). Sacrifice has consequences (karma).This is the bitter pill of life that a leader has to swallow if he wants to build Indra-prastha.

 

If the company is not doing well, if the revenue is not up to the mark, if the profits are not as expected, the costs will be cut. It is terrible that the situation has now reached a point that people have to lose jobs. It will be painful. There will be no escape.

 

The pain is not so much the loss of a job, but the impact that has on self-image, self-worth and self-esteem of the person losing the job. For it makes the person feel he is less worthy and less competent than those whose jobs were not cut. He will feel he is lowest in the pecking order. The psychological impact is terrible. So as senior manager, it is important to ensure that while you break the contract, you do not destroy their relationship with you. You have to ensure the dignity of the men and women concerned are maintained, remind them that the job is cut not because they are inferior but because things are just not working out with the company. Avoid the inhuman pink-slip practices common in many multinational companies where a person is consciously humiliated by being escorted out by security personnel and asked to collect their belongings at the gate.

 

The Vedic scriptures say that every person has three bodies: the physical body (sthula sharira),the mental body (sukshma sharira) and the social body (karana sharira).The physical body is what we see, the mental body is what we imagine ourselves to be and the social body is our location in society and organisation. When a person is being fired, the social body is dying but like old clothes discarded, it will be replaced by a new body. You as senior manager have to ensure that the death of the social body does not kill the mental body.

 

Your guilt is rooted in your own fear. The idea that you too could well be at the receiving end of such a gesture terrifies you. The consumer fears being consumed. You see this task as a burden you have to bear as a senior manager of the company. You do not see it as a necessary act for the good of the company with an unfortunate consequence. You see yourself as a victim of an organisational demand and a villain in the eyes of your team. But these are mental images that we construct in fear. In fear,the rest of your team will work harder, terrified that they will be next. This is unavoidable. In crisis, fear grips organisations. As senior manager, you have to acknowledge this fear, clarify what is and what is not in your control or influence, and avoid sweeping emotions under the carpet.

 

 

18 Ways to Make Your Parents Feel Great

The parents now a days are quite worried about the behavioral changes in their children due to several socio-economical reasons. The gap between parents and us, the youth, is increasing day by day due to which the family bonding is getting weaker and weaker. We, the youth, want liberty in every deed we do. We want our parents not to be disturb us in what-ever we do in what-so-ever manner. We have forgotten the amount of time our parnets have invested in for our brought up. We have forgotten the countless efforts and sacrifices by our parents thought out our lives.

 

Starting from our birth they have taken care of our food (22years * 365 days * 3 times = 24000 times!), our clothes (daily washing, ironing, new purchasing), our education (daily home works, uniform, school/tution fee), religious & moral teaching every day (THE REAL GREAT JOB), computer & toys purchasing and God knows how many other countless efforts they have put in to make us a complete human being to survive in this world. Indeed, all those efforts cannot be covered in this article but the overall emphesis is that its our moral and religious mandatory responsibility to take care of them now.

Below are some small acts of kindness which I request you to consider to show your affection with them and to take care of them:

  1. Give them enough money so that they don’t have to ask you. According to a Hadith of Prohet (PBUH), you and your money belongs to your father.

2. Share funny and entertaining things with them to make them laugh or smile.

3. Don’t speak loudly. Speak slowly, nicely and softly.

4. Do not walk in front of them in market or anywhere. They might walk slow being old; stay behind them. Give them respect.

  1. Ask for small tasks again and again. For example, “Abou Jee, do you need water? Should i bring tea for you? Are you hungry, baba” etc
  2. Closely monitor thier health. visit doctor if required. Have them thorougly checked time to time.
  3. Take care of their medicines. Set reminders on your phone for their medicines and serve them on time.
  4. Take them to the mosque. Walk slowly. Follow their pace.
  5. Take them to the park for walk. If not possible daily, then take them on weekend.
  6. Do not call them by their name. Call them with respect.
  7. Open the door for them with respect
  8. Adapt yourself according to their schedule not vise versa.
  9. Do shopping for them (buy their clothes, shoes, small items like tooth paste). Buy your mother a nice coffee cup. Take them to market and buy them according to their likings. Buy your parents some nice books; usually people love to read books in old age.
  10. When you come back to home, visit them first in their room.
  11. Respect their social circle and let them enjoy with their friends. Article written by Junaid.Tahir
  12. In case of conflict on any issue, try to follow them as much as possible. Remember, they have been sacrificing their money and time in raising you for years and years. Its time to pay back. They have been showing all the patience during your childhood. Its time for you to be patient.
  13. Keep them with you instead of sending them to old houses etc. This will be a big act of ignorance if you do.
  14. When starting the food, serve them first.

In the end, I would recommend making a check list of this email and and paste it on any wall in your room or kitchen and read it often to remember

 

 

The Top 7 Mistakes New Employees Make

The Top 7 Mistakes New Employees Make

 

Have you ever wondered how some people can begin a new job and seem like they fit in immediately? What about those new employees that seem to hang themselves before they have had a chance to get their feet wet. Below are the top 7 mistakes new employees make that can make them look bad.

 

1. Talking about your personal life.

 

This is never a good idea. Even if other employees talk openly about their lives, unless you are asked a question, keep it to yourself. I know a woman who was honest to a fault. She was young and very social and would openly talk about her children, lack of income, car trouble etc… She was unfairly labelled a poor worker who had to many personal issues to be dedicated to her job. Although she worked hard and got along with everyone, she ended up being bullied by her manager and left the company feeling miserable.

 

2. Looking unorganized.

 

You know that employee who has a completely messy desk? They might be getting their job done, but the impression left is that they are not efficient and lack the ability to do assignments well.

 

3. Gossiping.

 

A new employee might feel good when other workers invite the new employee into their group. Even if this group openly gossips and you just throw out a mildly negative thought about the company or another employee, you will look like you are starting drama. Plus you don’t want to be linked to the group that gossips anyway.

 

4. Not staying for a full shift.

 

Life can get in the way of staying for a full shift. You are ill, a child has an appointment or you have finished your work for the day might all be valid excuses. The problem is that you look like a slacker when you miss time at work. Do your best to work around issues that may come up. Find some back-up support and a plan in case something unexpected were to arise.

 

5. Not participating in company activities.

 

I am not a fan of using up my free time by going to company events. The company picnic, Christmas party or charity bowl-a-thon might not seem like a big deal to miss, but it is. Management likes to see their employees taking not only their job, but the company seriously. Plus, you get an opportunity to connect with employees that you might not get a chance to speak with on a regular day-to-day basis. Who knows how valuable that might be when you are looking to move into another position.

 

6. Avoid personal time while you’re working.

 

Personal phone calls, friends or family stopping by or balancing the checkbook are not looked upon favorably by management or other employees. Save personal activities for lunch break or better yet, at home.

 

7. Decorating your desk.

 

It’s one thing to put up a family picture or have a favorite motto at your desk. It’s another thing completely to decorate your desk with funny little toys, a candy jar and several pictures. Look it’s understandable that you want to feel some comfort at your desk. You spend so many hours at work that it might give you a bit of relief. When you don’t have space to do your work because your desk has to many knick-knacks, it’s a problem. Toys in general don’t give off a good impression to management. It looks like you are more likely to goof off instead of getting your work done.

 

When you are beginning a new job, be extra respectful of your environment. Be that hard worker who doesn’t spend company time gossiping, playing with toys or attending to personal matters. Be a team player even after work hours. These days jobs are harder to come by. Having an attitude that is professional is a sure way to make your new job a lasting job.

 

 

 

 

ரயில் டிக்கெட் புக்கிங்

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ரயில் டிக்கெட் புக்கிங்: இனி கிரெடிட்-டெபிட் கார்டுகள்
தேவையில்லை-செல்போன் இருந்தால் போதும்

டெல்லி: ரயில் டிக்கெட் முன்பதிவு செய்ய தற்போது கிரெடிட் கார்டு,
டெபிட் கார்டு தேவையில்லை. இண்டர் பேங்க் மொபைல் பெய்மெண்ட்
சிஸ்டம்(ஐ.எம்.பி.எஸ்) என்ற புதிய வசதியின் மூலம் ரயில் டிக்கெட்
முன்பதிவை மொபைல்போன் மூலம் எளிதாக செய்ய இந்திய ரயில்வே கேட்ரிங் மற்றும் சுற்றுலா துறை (ஐ.ஆர்.சி.டி.சி) அனுமதி அளித்துள்ளது.

ரயில் பயணத்திற்கு முன்பதிவு செய்ய தற்போது பல வசதிகள் உள்ளன. நேரடியாக சென்று முன்பதிவு செய்வதற்கு பதிலாக, இணையதளத்தின் மூலம் டிக்கெட் முன்பதிவு செய்து, கிரெடிட் கார்டு அல்லது டெபிட் கார்டு மூலம் அதற்கான கட்டணத்தை செலுத்தும் முறை தற்போது நடைமுறையில் உள்ளது. ஆனால் கிரேடிட் கார்டு மற்றும் டெபிட் கார்டு இல்லாதவர்களுக்கு, ரயில் டிக்கெட் முன்பதிவு செய்வதில் சிக்கல் ஏற்பட்டது.

இந்த நிலையில் இண்டர் பேங்க் மொபைல் பெய்மெண்ட் சிஸ்டம் (ஐ.எம்.பி.எஸ்) என்ற முறையின் மூலம் ரயில் டிக்கெட் முன்பதிவு செய்தால், பணம் செலுத்த டெபிட் கார்டு, கிரேடிட் கார்டு ஆகியவை தேவைப்படாது. மேலும் டிக்கெட் முன்பதிவு செய்ய ஒரு கம்ப்யூட்டர் கூட தேவையில்லை.

இந்த புதிய திட்டத்தை ஐ.ஆர்.சி.டி.சி. அறிமுகப்படுத்தி உள்ளது.
செல்போனில் இருந்து அனுப்பப்படும் எஸ்.எம்.எஸ். மூலம் டிக்கெட் முன்பதிவு செய்யப்படும். டிக்கெட் முன்பதிவு செய்த நபரின் வங்கி கணக்கில் டிக்கெட் கட்டணத்திற்கான பணம் பிடித்தம் செய்யப்படும். இந்த வசதியை பெற விரும்பும் நபர்கள் தனது செல்போன் எண், வங்கி கணக்கு எண் ஆகியவற்றை பதிவு செய்து, மொபைல் பண பரிவர்த்தனைக்கான குறியீடு (எம்.எம்.ஐ.டி) மற்றும் மொபைல் ரகசிய எண் ஆகியவை பெற்று கொள்ள வேண்டும்.

ரயில் டிக்கெட் முன்பதிவு செய்யும் போது Up to Rs.5000  வரையிலான பண
பரிமாற்றம் செய்ய Rs.Five கட்டணம் பிடித்தம் செய்யப்படும். அதற்கு
மேற்பட்ட பண பரிவர்த்தனைகளுக்கு Rs..Ten கட்டணம் வசூலிக்கப்படும். இந்த புதிய வசதியின் மூலம் இணையதளத்தில் டிக்கெட் முன்பதிவு செய்ய உள்ள அனைத்து வசதிகளையும், செல்போன் மூலம் பெற முடியும்.

_சபரிமலையில் சாமி தரிசனம்: ஆன்லைன் முன்பதிவு அடுத்த மாதம் துவக்கம்

திருவனந்தபுரம்: சபரிமலை ஐயப்பன் கோவிலில் வரும் மண்டல, மகர விளக்கு சீசனில் சாமி தரிசனம் செய்ய ஆன்லைன் முன்பதிவு வரும் அக்டோபர் முதல் வாரத்தில் துவங்குகிறது.

சபரிமலை ஐயப்பன் கோவிலுக்கு வரும் பக்தர்கள் எண்ணிக்கை ஒவ்வொரு ஆண்டும் அதிகரித்துக் கொண்டே போகிறது. மண்டல, மகர விளக்கு சீசனில் கட்டுக்கடங்காத கூட்டம் காணப்படுகிறது. இதனால் பக்தர்கள் பல மணி நேரம் வரிசையில் காத்திருந்தும், தரிசனம் செய்ய முடியாத நிலை உள்ளது. இதையடுத்து பக்தர்கள் எளிதில் தரிசனம் செய்ய ஆன்லைன் முலம் முன்பதிவு செய்யும திட்டம் கடந்த ஆண்டு தொடங்கப்பட்டது. கேரள போலீசார் இந்த தி்ட்டத்தை தொடங்கினர்.

இந்த திட்டத்திற்கு பெரும் வரவேற்பு கிடைத்தது. கடந்த வருடம் Fifteen
Lacs மேற்பட்ட பக்தர்கள் தரிசனம் செய்தனர். இந்நிலையில் இந்த வருடமும் இந்த திட்டம் செயல்படுத்தப்படுகிறது. பக்தர்கள் தரிசனம் செய்ய விரும்பும் நாளுக்கு Six to Eight weeks முன்பு வரை முன்பதிவு செய்யும் வசதி உள்ளது. இதற்காக கோவில் இணையதளம் நவீனப்படுத்தப்பட்டுள்ளது.

பக்தர்கள் சபரிமலையில் தரிசனம் செய்யும் தேதி, நேரம், பெயர், வயது,
புகைப்படம், முகவரி, புகைப்பட அடையாள அட்டை ஆகிய விபரங்களை இணையதளத்தில் பதிவு செய்ய வேண்டும். இதன் பிறகு பதிவுக்கான கூப்பன் வழங்கப்படும். இந்த கூப்பனை பக்தர்கள் இணையதளத்தில் இருந்து டவுன்லோடு செய்து பிரிண்ட் எடுத்து வைத்துக் கொள்ள வேண்டும்.

அதில் பக்தரின் பெயர், புகைப்படம், தரிசன தேதி, நேரம், குறியீட்டு எண்
ஆகியவை இடம் பெற்றிருக்கும். இந்த கூப்பனை பக்தர்கள் தரிசனத்துக்கு
வரும்போது கொண்டு வர வேண்டும். பம்பையில் தனியாக அமைக்கப்பட்டுள்ள கேரள போலீஸ கவுன்டரில் கூப்பனை சரிபார்த்தபின் சன்னிதானத்தில் தனி வரிசையில் நின்று, தரிசனம் செய்து கொள்ளலாம். இதற்கான முன்பதிவு அக்டோபர் முதல் வாரத்தில் தொடங்குகிறது. புரட்டாதி மாத பூஜைக்காக சபரிமலை ஐயப்பன் கோவில் நடை இன்று மாலை திறக்கப்படுகிறது. வருகிற 21ம் தேதி இரவு வரை சபரி்மலை கோயில் நடை திறந்திருக்கும்.

Happy Ganesh Chaturthi!

Ganesha, avert this environmental catastrophe!

Isn’tit ironic that a beloved deity symbolic of new beginnings and

removal of obstacles has clogged our lakes and tanks and

littered our coastlines? Traditionally, Ganesh or Ganpati
idols were made of earth, which dissolved easily in the water

in which they were immersed during visarjan. Over time, as the
magnitude of celebrations grew, mud and clay made way for

Plaster of Paris, a cheaper and lighter gypsum-based binding
material that degrades very slowly. Also, the vegetable dyes

that were traditionally used to color idols were replaced with
chemical-based coloring agents and lead-based paints, which

leach toxins into the water causing serious health hazards. On
the eve of Ganesh Chaturthi, we raise a familiar question

again: Should we celebrate at such great cost to the
environment? Or will you make a small but significant difference this year?


An artisan applies finishing touches to an idol of the Hindu

elephant god Ganesh, the deity of prosperity, in Jammu. Though

earthen clay was traditionally used to prepare the idols, it has now

given way to cheaper and lighter Plaster of Paris. The cost to the

environment, however, is much higher. Unlike clay, which

disintegrates naturally in water easily, Plaster of Paris degrades

very slowly and remains for days in the water.

The ten-day-long Ganesh Chaturthi festival, marking the birth of Lord

Ganesh, is celebrated in September. Crowds of devotees take idols

in procession to be immersed in water bodies, bringing entire

cities to a standstill. Traditionally, soil taken from near the

devotee’s home was used to fashion the idol and its immersion in

water symbolized the natural cycle of creation and dissolution.

Plaster of Paris has replaced earthen clay as the preferring

material for constructing Ganesh idols. Bulk orders are taken over a

year in advance and it takes months to complete fashioning the

idols. Some variations of plaster contain powdered silica or

asbestos, which may cause serious health hazards if inhaled.

Asbestos inhalation has been known to cause cancer, as well as

asbestosis, a chronic respiratory disease of the lungs. Inhaled

silica can cause silicosis, making affected people susceptible to tuberculosis.

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A finished idol awaits a buyer in Jammu, northern India. Paints

containing oxides of mercury, zinc and lead are applied on the idols

together with “thinner”, a petroleum product. Ganesh Chaturthi is

celebrated as the birthday of Lord Ganesha, who is widely worshiped

as the god of wisdom, prosperity and good fortune.

A schoolgirl admires a creative interpretation of the Ganesha idol

in Hyderabad. The idols will be immersed into oceans and rivers at

the end of the festival. In the city of Mumbai alone, an estimated

1.91 lakh idols were immersed in 2010.

 

 

A gigantic Ganesh idol is readied for the dais. The decorated idols

are placed in enormous marquees known as pandals over a ten-day

festive period marked by worship and cultural celebrations. At the

end of the festival the idols, some even larger than this one, are

immersed in large water bodies.

Nearly every Hindu family in Maharashtra keeps an idol of Ganesh

during the festival period that lasts ten days. Here, a family takes

its newly purchased idol home by local train. This year, municipal

authorities and non-governmental organizations have been campaigning

for the use of idols made of eco-friendly materials. This family

seems to have missed the bus. Maybe next year.


Devotees prepare to immerse an enormous Ganesh idol in the Arabian

Sea on the final day of Ganesh Chaturthi festival in Mumbai. They

are joined by millions of others across the state and the rest of

the country.  In an important step towards sustainable celebration,

some families and organizations have taken steps to symbolically

immerse a reusable metal idol in a pot of water at home. The same

idol will be reused the following year.

Devotees immerse a Ganesh idol in the Sabarmati River in Ahmedabad.

Though the demand for idols made of clay and natural materials have been high this year, supply has not caught up as making idols from clay takes longer. Further, clay idols cost more.

A Ganesh idol joins thousands of others being immersed in the river.

A study conducted in the Ganga River in the aftermath of the similar

immersion of Durga idols during the Pujo festival estimated that the

total amount of paint submerged in the river was approximately 15

tons. They caused the levels of heavy metals such as mercury,

chromium and copper and zinc sulphites to increase by as much as 20

times the normal between October and January. Only during the

monsoon, when water levels rise in Indian rivers, does the level of pollutants diminish.

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A man searches for reusable items amid immersed idols of the

elephant-headed Hindu God Ganesh in the Sabarmati River. Action

groups in Mumbai insist that there is a silver lining amid all of

this: In 2009, 8,383 household idols were immersed in artificial

ponds. In 2010, they maintain, the number grew to 13,866.

 

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Schoolchildren paint idols of Ganesh made with earthen soil with natural colors

in Hyderabad. In Nagpur, eco-friendly Ganesh idols made of natural

materials and colored with natural dyes are available at

Kheteshwar Mandir, Gandhi Bagh and at Chitnavis Centre. The Goan

Hindu Janajagruti Samiti, seen by many as a saffron right-wing

group, has gone green by banning the use of Plaster of Paris idols

and props in celebrations this year. Their contention finds basis

in the Hindu practice of using sattvic (pure) materials for

worship. In Ponda, also in Goa, eco-friendly idols have been made

using waste paper from used jap pustaka (prayer books). They are

painted with edible palm oil which dissolves easily in water. We

hope you are inspired. Happy Ganesh Chaturthi!