When I was a kid, my mom would prepare special breakfast every now and then. And I remember one night in particular, after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my mom and ask me how my day was at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that biscuit and eat every bite!
When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I’ll never forget what he said: Honey, I love burned biscuits.
Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned.
He wrapped me in his arms and said, Your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she’s real tired. And besides – a little burnt biscuit never hurt anyone! You know, life is full of imperfect things…..and imperfect people. I’m not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else.
What I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each other’s faults – and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences – is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.
And that’s my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of God. Because in the end, He’s the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where a burnt biscuit isn’t a deal-breaker!
We could extend this to any relationship. In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!
Don’t put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket – keep it in your own.
God Bless You….. Now, and always….
So Please pass me a biscuit, and yes, the burnt one will do just fine!!!!
And SHARE this with someone who has enriched your life… I just did!
“Heaven gives you all the conditions you need for your evolution,
but, as they do not usually present themselves in the form you
were expecting, not only do you not see them, but you complain.
You wait for God to grant you happiness in the form of success or
glory, and when success and glory do not come you are unhappy.
Well, this shows that you are neither intelligent nor perceptive.
Study whatever happens to you, and ask yourself what the
invisible world expects of you when it confronts you with
difficulties and problems to solve. Reflect in future, and learn
to see all those things you consider obstacles or failures
differently. Then you will understand that there is always
something to discover.
Happiness is in a place where you are not yet able to see it. You
would like it to be like your idea of it, wouldn’t you? Well,
that is not possible. But do not be discouraged. You are not
alone; there are many beings in the invisible world thinking of
you and always teaching you and helping you.”
Omraam Mikhaël Aïvanhov
Unfortunately we can’t all be a Brad Pitt or a George Clooney. After all, the ugly tree has many branches and the chances are that most of us received at least a glancing blow as we made our way into the world. But the good news is that when it comes to getting the girl, looks aren’t the be all and end all.
Research shows women love a man with a sense of humour – here MSN Him reveals why, and how to make a women laugh.
Yes, while most men might be about as shallow as a shower when it comes to what’s on the outside, the fairer sex are much more forgiving; in fact for many, looks come second to a good sense of humour. The stats are certainly easy on the eye, especially if your wit is sharper than your cheekbones. According to recent research by dating website Match.com 86% of female daters revealed they are looking for a man with a good sense of humour, whilst a similar study from IllicitEncounters.com shows that 72% of women rate humour above good looks when looking for a partner.
So why do women like a funnyman?
According to relationship expert Marisa Peer it’s because funny men are easy for women to be around. “Funny men are good company. Humans want to be entertained, even kings had court jesters, and at a party we don’t want to talk to heart surgeons or scientists, we want to talk to actors/comedians because we love and need entertainment.”
Rochelle Peachey, founder of transatlantic dating site iloveyouraccent.com agrees. “Women feel humour is indicative of a man’s intelligence,” she tells MSN Him, “as he has to be clever to be witty. Intelligence is attractive to women and sub-consciously women feel that funny clever men will ultimately be better providers.”
The old adage that laughter is always the best medicine also rings true here. Laughing makes us feel good about ourselves, so of course, by extension, we naturally feel good in the company of those people who make us smile. This is great news for us guys who weren’t blessed with well-chiselled jawlines. While we might not be a knockout in the looks department, we can be equally as attractive with a killer punchline.
One-liners v wit
Before you head off in search of the big bumper book of jokes, we’ll have to let you in on a secret. Getting a women to laugh isn’t as easy as reeling off a few well-chosen knock-knock gags. So if you’re not naturally funny what can you do to make her laugh? “Don’t try too hard and never tell jokes that are offensive.” Rochelle warns. So you can forget about your usual pub banter when out with mates, it won’t cut the mustard with a lady. And whatever you do, don’t be mean, rude or make her the butt of your jokes – we’re not at primary school any more and it’s not going to impress her.
How to make a woman laugh
“You need to understand what makes her laugh” Marisa advises. “Ask her what she finds funny or try to laugh together by going to a comedy club or watching a funny movie/TV show that she likes. Not only will you be able to find out what she finds funny, but you are also developing a shared sense of humour which is bonding, leading her to believe that you are the right man for her.”
Sometimes, the best way to get a woman to smile is to be able to laugh at yourself. If you’ve done something funny or stupid, tell her about it even if it’s embarrassing. You may feel a little silly at first but it’s guaranteed to make her smile and has the added benefit of showing her that you’re letting your guard down and being yourself around her.
Perhaps the best advice, however, is to just be yourself. Making a woman laugh should be a natural process and if you have chemistry you’ll very quickly find a whole bunch of things you can laugh at together. In fact the more you relax, go out and have fun together, the more things you’ll find to laugh at and you’ll very quickly start developing inside jokes – secret things that only the two of you laugh at that no one else finds funny. This is often the best laughter going and you don’t need to be a stand-up comedian to find it. So be yourself and just enjoy spending time together and in the end you’ll make her smile. It might not be as easy as it sounds, but you never know, you may even have a little fun yourself along the way.
Social Media and its impact on Youth
1. Do Not Interfere In Others’ Business Unless Asked:
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others’ affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act inexactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.
2. Forgive And Forget:
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive & Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.
3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yours if in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.
4. Do Not Be Jealous:
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody’s life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.
5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.
6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:
This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.
7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:
This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.
8. Meditate Regularly:
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour every day, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.
9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:
An empty mind is the devil’s workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or chanting of God’s name.
10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:
Do not waste time in protracted wondering “Should I or shouldn’t I?” Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over spilt milk?
This applies to daughters too.
Use this in your teachings to your children.
Following is a letter to his son from a renown Hong Kong TV broadcaster cum Child Psychologist. The words are actually applicable to all of us, young or old, children or parents.
I am writing this to you because of 3 reasons
1. Life, fortune and mishaps are unpredictable, nobody knows how long he lives. Some words are better said early.
2. I am your father, and if I don’t tell you these, no one else will.
3. What is written is my own personal bitter experiences that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches.
Remember the following as you go through life
1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I. To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really likes you. You have to be careful, don’t hastily regard him as a real friend.
2. No one is indispensable, nothing in the world that you must possess. Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don’t want you anymore, or when you lose what/who you love most.
3. Life is short. When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.
4. Love is but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one’s mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness. Don’t over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don’t over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.
5. A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life. One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!
6. I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, either would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor.
7. You honour your words, but don’t expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don’t expect people to be good to you. If you don’t understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.
8. I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but I never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch!
9. No matter how much time I have with you, let’s treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.