There’s a bakery shop near to our house. Often, on my way back home in the evening, I buy some stuff for the morning breakfast.Today, as I was about to leave the bakery, I met our neighbour Mr. Trevor who himself was leaving the same shop. After the exchange of some traditional greetings, the conversation went like following.
I asked: “What have you bought?”
Trevor replied: “Nothing much, just some Onion Samosa and sweet Dry Jumun for my wife and children”.
Jokingly, I enquired, “Why so? Hasn’t your wife cooked today?”
He said: “No, it’s not like that. Actually, today in office we were a little hungry so my colleagues ordered some Onion Samosas and Dry Jumun. Since, I had this at the office I thought to buy some for my family too. It’s not fair that I eat whatever I like at the office while my kids and wife remain bound to eat whatever is cooked at home.”
Confounded with great surprise, I stared at him because I never thought this way before.
I said: “What’s the big deal, Trevor? If you eat food of your own choice at the office, your wife and children would also be having whatever they like to eat at home.”
Trevor replied: “Not at all, my wife saves for me from everything there is. Even if someone from neighbourhood sends something, my wife first saves some for me and then distributes it among my kids. It would be very selfish if I just enjoy good things with my friends and not with my family.”
Amazed upon hearing this I said: “Enjoying? This bakery stuff is what you think is enjoyment?”
He said: “Whatever! I dread the time when on the Day of Resurrection, I’ll be questioned about this. That I took someone’s daughter into marriage and had fun with my friends while she ate whatever little was available.”
Completely stunned, I couldn’t move my eyes off him while he continued.
“Look, when we get married to someone’s sister or daughter, they are human beings as well. Just like us. They too have hunger needs. They have their desires as well. They too wish to taste lots of delicious foods or foods of their choice, to try different kinds of lovely outfits. They also want to move and travel around. Keeping them caged like a bird, providing them meals twice a day and having a sense of smugness for doing all this is selfishness. And the way we treat the daughters of others is the way our own daughters and sisters will be treated because what goes around comes around.”
His last words shook me to a great degree. I never thought like this before. Concluding the conversation with Trevor I said, “Great! You have made me think from a different perspective.” I turned back to the shop.
Trevor enquired, “Where are you going?”
I replied, “To buy some ice-cream…actually I had some ice-cream at the office today.”
Trevor and I took our respective paths. Trevor was glad to have a positive impact on me. On the other hand, I now knew how to keep my wife and kids happy and acknowledge all the efforts my wife does for my happiness.
When a husband puts his wife first, above everyone and everything EXCEPT GOD, it gives his wife the sense of security and honour that every wife hungers for. (that applies vice versa as well).
– Wives are what makes life beautiful!
– Husbands are what makes a marriage whole!
– No wonder they call each other, “My Better Half” –