Female habits that drive men crazy

Being comfortable with your other half is wonderful, however, you might have unconsciously picked up some habits along the way that turn him off. Here are the top 10 traits we think you should steer clear of.


10: Over-analysing everything Let’s face it, men really aren’t that complicated. So if a guy says, ‘I’m a bit busy right now. Can I ring you later?’ chances are, work’s really quite hectic. One kiss in his texts instead of the usual two doesn’t mean he’s gone off you, and a surprise cup of tea doesn’t mean he’s feeling guilty. So give men the benefit of the doubt, take things at face value and you’ll save yourself a heap of stress.


9: Wearing too much make-upwe’re all for making an effort, but caking on too much slap risks bringing out your inner drag queen rather than your secret sex kitten. False eyelashes, fake tan and hair extensions all have their place, but a girl can look fab without resorting to these tricks. Far much better to enhance your natural beauty instead of hiding it, and remind him how gorgeous you really are.


8: Shop till YOU dropif a man is lucky enough to share his life with a girl, chances are he has to share it with a massive shoe collection as well. Dragging him around the sales for hours, splurging obscene amounts of cash and then taking up valuable storage space with your spoils can drive him up the wall. While retail therapy can soothe many a crisis, perhaps leave your partner at home next time!


7: Taking forever to get readyEven if the end result is a vision of beauty, it takes a very forgiving man to shrug off a three-hour wait. Men understand women want to look their best, but are perfect nails and expertly smoothed dresses really necessary for a visit to your local curry house? Being ready quickly will show how laid back you are, and give you both more time to have fun.


6: GossipingAccording to scientific types, a good gossiping session is a way of bonding and triggers the release of endorphins; those hormones that make us feel happy. This is all well and good, but when it descends into a bitching fest it can be a turn-off. And if the focus of the gossip is someone the man knows too, it can be very awkward next time he sees them.


5: Pinching other people’s chipsNo one’s going to judge a girl if she orders her own plate of chips, or a dessert for that matter. But if you virtuously stick to a salad and then proceed to demolish the tasty stuff from the plate opposite, it’ll raise a few eyebrows. Go on – order the chocolate pudding if you want it. And don’t worry if you don’t want to share!


4: Obsessing about weightWomen are bombarded with images of perfect beauty, so it’s no wonder fretting about our appearance is an hourly past-time. But even though it might not seem like it, men just aren’t as interested in our bingo wings as we are. If you radiate self-confidence, no one’s going to notice those extra three pounds you put on recently.


3: NaggingHave you paid the gas bill yet? Are you EVER going to fix that shelf?’ Women have a habit of going on in such a way that the more they nag, the lower the chance their man will ever do whatever it is they’re being asked. The solution? Do it yourself! Failing that, ask sweetly and sparingly, and lavish him with gratitude when it eventually gets done.


2: Talking too muchIt’s official – us girls love to chat. In the ladies’ loo, at the gym, at the pub  we have something to say most of the time. But while no one likes an awkward silence, it’s worth remembering your man is not your sound board, like your best friend might be. He doesn’t care quite as much about Julie in reception’s boob job, or the fact that you’ve been searching high and low for spring’s must-have colour block skinny jeans. Stick to subjects that will interest you both and ask lots of questions  especially when you’re getting to know each other.


1: Probing men’s inner thoughtsYou’re snuggled up on the sofa, enjoying a rare moment of peace and quiet. And then comes THAT question  ‘What are you thinking?’ You’re only trying to foster the atmosphere of intimacy and perhaps hoping for some proof that you’re the centre of his thoughts. But his mind may have already wandered to yesterday’s football scores and he’ll have to lie to keep you happy. Compliments are lovely, but if you wait until he chooses to dish them out, they’ll be that much sweeter.


Peaceful co-existence

Peaceful co-existence

– (published in “The Hindu” dated 22.03.2012)

Often we find that we are unable to get on with our parents, or siblings, or spouses. The reason is no one is without the thought of self. No one is without an ego. So there is bound to be friction when people are thrown about in each other’s company for a long time. But what then is the solution? Should one shun one’s relatives, in the desire to avoid friction? How much importance should we give to our independence? The refusal to make even minor adjustments to accommodate one’s own family has led to members of a family not even keeping in touch with each other. Siblings who grew up together, no longer tolerate each other, when they are adults. It is sad when they can hardly bear to be in the company of their extended family for long. But we must learn the art of peaceful co-existence, Suki Sivam stressed in a discourse.

Children of the present era use the word ‘self- reliant’ with abandon, thinking that human beings can be dispensed with and that life can go on merrily if one has enough money for creature comforts. But human beings are not dispensable. Nor can they be cast aside once their services are no longer needed. In fact one must realise that one cannot live in isolation, and that it is one’s family that rallies round in times of need.

The need for co-operation and gregariousness has been demonstrated in the animal world. There was a time when there was an unusually cold winter, in a place where there was a colony of porcupines. To keep warm, the porcupines huddled together. Because of the bristles on their bodies, they were injuring each other, but they still kept close to each other for, if they moved away, they would die without the bodily warmth of the other porcupines. So although there was a lot of discomfort, the porcupines stayed close together and survived. Likewise, a family is not without its share of annoyances and irritations and even quarrels. But if we cite this as a reason for moving away from our kith and kin, then we will be left with no one to help us in times of need. We need each other for our very survival. So we must learn to co-exist peacefully with others, so that our life on this earth does not become difficult.



Radish Is A Root Vegetable

Radish is not a fruit. It is a root vegetable, like a carrot. It resembles beets and turnips in appearance and texture, but has its own distinct flavor. Radishes can be white, red, purple or black, long, cylindrical or round in shape. It belongs to the same vegetable family as broccoli, cauliflower and Brussels sprouts and offer many similar cancer-fighting benefits.


5 Main Varieties

There are five main varieties of radish. The red globe variety is small, round and oval in shape. It is also called button red radish. They can have diameter of 1-4 inches. These radishes have solid and crisp flesh. The black variety of radish is turnip-like in shape. These radishes have a dull black or dark brownish skin. When they are peeled, one can see the white flesh. They taste quite pungent, and are drier than other varieties. However, they have a longer shelf life compared to most radishes. The Daikon ( Japanese ) variety is native to Asia. These are very large carrot-shaped radishes. Daikons have white flesh which is juicy, and a bit hotter than red radish. White icicle is another variety that is long and grows up to half a foot and is tapered in shape. These radishes have a white flesh which is milder than the red variety of radishes. The fifth variety is the California mammoth white. This type of radishes have oblong-shaped roots, and have flesh that tastes slightly pungent.


Nutritional Value of Radish

#1  Radishes are known for their anti-bacterial and anti-fungal properties

#2  They belong to the cabbage family, and have vitamin C, potassium, sodium and traces of other minerals

#3  Radishes are low in saturated fat and very low in cholesterol

#4  They are a good source of riboflavin, vitamin B6, calcium, magnesium, copper, manganese

#5  Radishes are an excellent source of dietary fiber, folate, vitamin C and potassium

Health Benefits of Radish

#1  Radish are very good for the liver and stomach. It helps to detox and purify blood and thus very helpful in jaundice. It checks the destruction of red blood cells during jaundice by increasing the supply of fresh oxygen in the blood. Black radish is preferred more while treating jaundice.

#2  Radishes are rich source of roughage, which are indigestible carbohydrates. This facilitates in digestion, helps in retaining water and curing constipation, thus providing relief in piles. Also, its detoxifying power helps to get rid of piles faster.

#3  Radish is a diuretic, and thus helps in increasing urine production. The juice of radish helps in treating inflammation and burning feeling during urinating. Hence, is very helpful to treat urinary disorders.
#4  Radish are a very good source of dietary fiber, and can be helpful in natural weight-loss. After eating them, one will feel full for longer.

#5  Being a good detoxifier and rich source of vitamin C and anthocyanins, it helps to cure many kinds of cancer, particularly cancers related to intestines, stomach, colon and kidney. For example, Daikon radish inhibits the formation of dangerous chemicals in the body. Also, red radish has lycopene in it. Lycopene can dramatically help to lower the risk of prostate cancer.

#6  Due to its detoxifying and anti-carcinogenic properties, it is useful in treating leukoderma. Radish seeds are powdered and soaked in vinegar and then applied on white patches.

#7  Due to its vitamin C, phosphorus, zinc and vitamin B6 content, radish are used in treating many skin disorders. It helps to maintain the moisture of the skin, and also disinfect many rashes.

#8  Radish is an anti-congestive and helps in treating many respiratory system-related problems. It is also rich in vitamins and a good disinfectant, hence, radish are used in protecting the respiratory system from many infections.

Practical Use

#1  You can simply juice radish and drink immediately. Can add watermelon or pineapple, etc.

#2  You can slice and add it to salad, making the dish visually-inviting as well. To make your salad even more crunchy, you can soak washed-&-trimmed radishes in ice water for a couple of hours and then serve them. It enhances their crispness and flavor.

#3  Add as an extra ingredient to usual family-consumption, snow-boiled nourishing soup that may comprise lean pork, pork bones, carrots, onion, snow-ear, red dates, etc


What gives a man or woman the right to lead?

It certainly isn’t gained by election or appointment. Having position, title, rank, or degrees doesn’t qualify anyone to lead other people. And the ability doesn’t come automatically from age or experience, either.
No, it would be accurate to say that no one can be given the right to lead. The right to lead can only be earned. And that takes time.
The key to becoming an effective leader is not to focus on making other people follow, but on making yourself the kind of person they want to follow. You must become someone others can trust to take them where they want to go.
As you prepare yourself to become a better leader, use the following guidelines to help you grow:
1. Let go of your ego.
The truly great leaders are not in leadership for personal gain. They lead in order to serve other people. Perhaps that is why Lawrence D. Bell remarked, “Show me a man who cannot bother to do little things, and I’ll show you a man who cannot be trusted to do big things.
2. Become a good follower first.
Rare is the effective leader who did not learn to become a good follower first. That is why a leadership institution such as the United State Military Academy teaches its officers to become effective followers first – and why West Point has produced more leaders than the Harvard Business School.

3. Build positive relationships.
Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less. That means it is by nature relational. Today’s generation of leaders seem particularly aware of this because title and position mean so little to them. They know intuitively that people go along with people they get along with.
4. Work with excellence.
No one respects and follows mediocrity. Leaders who earn the right to lead give their all to what they do. They bring into play not only their skills and talents, but also great passion and hard work. They perform on the highest level of which they are capable.
5.Rely on discipline, not emotion.
Leadership is often easy during the good times. It’s when everything seems to be against you – when you’re out of energy, and you don’t want to lead – that you earn your place as a leader. During every season of life, leaders face crucial moments when they must choose between gearing up or giving up. To make it through those times, rely on the rock of discipline, not the shifting sand of emotion.
6.Make adding value your goal.
When you look at the leaders whose names are revered long after they have finished leading, you find that they were men and women who helped people to live better lives and reach their potential. That is the highest calling of leadership – and its highest value.

7. Give your power away.
One of the ironies of leadership is that you become a better leader by sharing whatever power you have, not by saving it all for yourself. You’re meant to be a river, not a reservoir. If you use your power to empower others, your leadership will extend far beyond your grasp.


One of our Favourite activities is to critically analyse and judge others around us. It could be a boss, a colleague, a student, a neighbour, ones spouse or children, ones relatives etc. As soon as we interact with a person, we begin to mentally form a picture and decide what is right about them and what is not. Then, depending on our relationship, we begin to advice them on how they can be a better individual and human being. 

At the same time, our reaction to innate objects is quite different. When we know that a vessel is hot, we take care while holding it and consciously avoid contact. Similarly, we approach a rose bush cautiously to avoid getting a prick from its thorns. It would be considered really foolish for someone to try and strip or snip off all the thorns of a rose bush.
Why can’t we use the same approach while dealing with people? Can we not accept people as they are and adjust ourselves while dealing with them? Can we not stop judging them or blaming them for the way they are? Is it not easier to change ourselves than trying to change others? 


The Law of Focus and Attention

Wherever we focus our attention is where our thoughts are directed with most frequency and interest. Thus energy is produced in this direction, whether positive and beneficial energy or negative and harmful energy.

 If we have a complicated mind, which thinks too much about certain things unnecessarily, our attention may be led towards the obstacles, problems, upsets and the things we worry about from a critical and negative viewpoint. By paying more attention to difficulties and problems, we feed these types of thoughts with our attention, so that we end up attracting these situations towards us. Finally, the problems and obstacles absorb us due to the amount of energy we have invested in them, turning what was perhaps a molehill (something very small) into a mountain.

 The situation does not necessarily change immediately on changing our attitude. With this inner change, however, we will have more energy, clarity and determination to face up to and change the situation. When we focus on seeking solutions to problems and difficulties with a positive and enthusiastic attitude, we attract positive energy towards us, and this helps us transform mountains into molehills.

If our attention is focused on people’s defects and weaknesses, we transmit energy to these aspects and strengthen these weaknesses in the other person and in ourselves. If, on the other hand, our attention is directed at the positive aspects of others, we reinforce these qualities and virtues and help this person express them, which is also beneficial to us.


Our personality is made up of a series of values, beliefs and habits. If we wish to transfer our energy to new and positive aspects of ourselves, we must choose the personality traits that we want to emerge from us, focusing our time and energy on them and, in this way, this virtue, value or quality will manifest itself in our life.