6 Types of People Build Your Mental Toughness

As the saying goes, It gets lonely at the top. There are many reasons that one feels isolated and at times lonely when they have reached the pinnacle of success. For one thing, everyone wants to be your friend; but since you cant make time for everyone only a select few get invited into the circle. Whats my point? Accepting success and failure once you have reached the highest levels of success requires the same mental toughness it took to get there. As has been proven throughout history, the higher you climb the more quickly the naysayers want to bring you back down. Envy and adversity become the most common invaders you must manage and all the while you need to remain mentally tough, and not allow the noise to cloud your mind and control your actions.

Mental toughness defines the leadership game. You need wide-angle vision to continuously navigate the terrain that awaits you with each big decision you make and vision you cast. The tension points of leadership can be extremely exhausting and pressure-packed. Nevertheless, the leadership journey must continue and your demeanor must appear unfazed as if it were business as usual.

Mental toughness is acquired over time. To be mentality tough means that risk is your best friend, that innovation comes second nature and that you have grown accustomed to anticipating crisis and managing change. Mental toughness is also a by-product of experiencing failure and knowing how to rebound. As Rick Newman noted in his book, Rebounders, Setbacks can be a secret weapon. They often teach vital things youll never learn in school, on the job or from others.

As I have learned from my own experiences, mental toughness begins when you can separate your emotions and remain focused on what matters most. And this is never more true than when you are being ambushed by one of the following six negative members of your audience:


1. The Doubters

These are the skeptics who want you to fail and believe your ideas have no merit. They are the pessimistic ones waiting on the sidelines wanting things to go wrong and salivating to witness your hardship.

2. The Leeches

These are the people who lack creativity and originality. Leeches will stay close to your every move just so they can steal your ideas. They enjoy asking you lots of questions and are aggressive in requesting one-on-one time to pick your brain for wisdom that they can use for their own personal benefit. The sibling of the leech is the loafer, and you can learn more about both types here.

3. The Critics

These are the people who are always finding ways to disrupt your confidence by telling you that your vision is wrong. They are quick to inform you that your knowledge of the marketplace is not realistic as they attempt to throw your thinking off kilter. The critics are a legitimate challenge because they possess valid insights of the landscape you are competing in yet they lack the hands-on battle wounds to justify their criticisms. They are the prototypical know-it-alls who believe that they are always right and that their written credentials allow them to have a voice in the matter.


4. The Envious

These are the people who wish they had your courage, but instead waste their energy by poking fun at your efforts to create impact. Envious people make your job more difficult as they attempt to slow down your execution by trying to convince themselves and others that your work isnt important. Most envious people are those who wish they were more like you, and thus remain bitter because they dont trust themselves enough to be unique in their own ways. Because we live in a dog-eat-dog world, envious people would rather find joy in making your life difficult rather than using their valuable time to make a difference in the world. Read more about how envy destroys careers here.

5. The Victims

Victims believe they havent had a good break in life and thus feel that something is owed to them for their misfortune. They would rather spend their time trying to make you feel sorry for them. They are quick to ask for favors, but slow to reciprocate. They are the manipulators and want others to feel their pain though they are rarely motivated to take initiative.

6. The Noise

These are the voices that are drowning in mass confusion and just want to be heard. They are loud and obnoxious and crave attention. Unlike the victims, they have no real ambition and live with no purpose.

Leadership is a journey of mental toughness. Without it, you cant effectively think, act and innovate. You cant motivate or inspire the best in others. If you cant handle the aforementioned six types of people, you should think carefully if you are ready to assume a leadership role. Its a mandatory responsibility that is not outlined in the job description



7 types of the most terrible bosses

enjoy performing the functions of your job, it’s the co-workers that have the power to make or break the whole experience for you. And it’s none other than your boss, director, supervisor or manager who has the greatest sway over your day-to-day experience. A good boss can make work an absolute pleasure to go to. But bosses are humans like the rest of us, and some of them have glaring flaws. Still, they must be “better” than you in some way to be in a superior position, right? RIGHT?!? Not always.

7 The Insecure Boss

This one flexes their authoritative muscles just to do it, like a child saying “Look at me, mommy. I hate you!” The insecure boss overcompensates by pretending they have supreme confidence in themselves. They can do no wrong, because that would mean that their inner suspicions about their own incompetence are correct.

6 The Paranoid Boss

Work paranoia can mentally cripple a person. So, guess what happens when your boss thinks their job performance is in question or that they’re in jeopardy of being fired? You are the one that feels the brunt of it. Special projects will come up that are meant to show off to their superiors and forget about double checking, you’re gonna have to start triple checking. Worst of all, this boss will always have ways to cover their own ass, but not yours if the shit hits the fan.

5 The Boss Who Takes It Out on Everyone Else

Some bosses cannot suffer any injustice, no matter how small, at work without pushing it on his or her employees in some way. Sometimes they’ll even bring baggage from their personal lives. Steer clear of this one as much as you possibly can. If that doesn’t work, then try buttering them up from time to time with rum cake, hot toddies or penne a la vodka. (Basically any type of food you can slip alcohol into to calm them down.)

4 The Shit Rolls Downhill Boss

When in a good mood, this boss may speak to and treat you with respect and maybe even pull their own weight. But this is contingent on how they are being treated or what their workload is like. When something “comes down” from corporate or from their boss, the extra work and stress is passed directly down to you. And hey, isn’t that what being a boss is all about?

3 The Boss Who Has Checked Out

Some people just don’t give a sweet damn about their job. If the person in question is one that has authority, then this can mean big problems for their lowly underlings. Because you can bet your ass that they will do as little work as possible while taking as much credit as possible. So, why should someone who doesn’t care get paid more and have a more impressive title than you? Logic’s got nothing to do with it.

2 The Bitter Boss

This is the boss that hates the job, hates the company and hates themselves. No one wants to spend time around someone with so much negative energy, let alone be under their tyrannical rule. This person also loves to poison the well, tainting views about other employees, departments and/or the practices of the company itself.

1 The One You Could Do Better Than

Some bosses are good people managers but lack strategy, leadership and skills for success. You may not have any ill-will toward them, but there’s always that frustrating envy of knowing that you could achieve goals that they never could. Its a classic exit strategy in the making.