Why you SHOULD have pre-marital sex

482985_395780247136360_639492834_nThe Madras High Court certainly tries hard to live up to the first syllable of its name. They have just ruled that couples who have pre-marital sex can legally be considered as married, in some respects. If we weren’t sure that it’s 18 June and not April 1 today, we would think that the honourable High Court was trolling us all.

But that led us to think – what if this becomes a law throughout India, and people who have pre-marital sex are automatically considered as husband and wife? We think it might actually be a really good idea, because of the following benefits:

1. You can get a house: If you are single, everyone thinks that you and your friends are sex-crazed, drug-running, terrorism-promoting fiends. And you have to settle for a tiny house with a huge list of conditions laid down by a landlord. But if you’re married, you automatically become ‘decent’ and will get a recipe book free with your swanky new apartment.

2. You’ll never be bored by old wedding videos again: If sex replaces actual weddings, a lot of boring elements like the clothes, the speeches, and the relatives are completely removed, and we cut straight to the chase. We assume people wouldn’t be too keen on you watching their bedtime shenanigans with rapt attention.

3. Gay marriage will be legalised: India holds the dubious distinction of being one of the last countries to decriminalise homosexuality in 2009. But if everyone who has sex is married, gay couples will finally have what straight couples already had as a right — spouses.

4. People will stop hinting to you at weddings: Old relatives love to come up to single (wo)men and ask them why they aren’t married yet. But, if this new law comes through, most young people will be married, courtesy pre-marital sex. Problem solved!

5. ND Tiwari will become the most ‘married’ man in India

6. Less people will indulge in phone sex: More phone sex will lead to more Facebook marriages, which we are willing to bet the Madras HC will accept as valid in good time. So the next time you hear your neighbour in the train whispering sweet nothings into the phone, you can go Sena on him and drag him to the nearest temple.

7. Registry offices will get a lot more business: Till today, registry offices were visited only by couples who were married, in the old sense. From tomorrow, they will be visited in the middle of the night by dishevelled, semi-clad people who just got married, and are probably complaining that one of them got married too soon.

Can you think of any other reasons. Tell us in the comments section!

 

10 things you have to know about arranged marriages

People in the western countries are at their wit’s end when it comes to comprehending the rationale behind arranged marriage system, more so the success rate that it enjoys. But there is a lot more to this traditional system of making matches than what meets the eyes.

m1) Right age: Love knows no age, but in order to make a good match through arranged marriage, it is imperative to keep age consideration in mind. The preferable age for girls is around 25 or 26 and for guys no later than 30.

2) Self assessment: Take a pen and paper and list down what all things you expect in your spouse to be and what level of compatibility do you desire, that will be in tune with the compromises that will need to be made.

3) Decent Expectations: Expectations in an arranged marriage tend to run high and higher the expectations, greater are the disappointments because at the end of the day, it is not necessary that all the virtues that you desire can be found in one person.

4) Economic compatibility: Arranged marriages take everything in account and strive for utmost compatibility even in terms of economic standing of the families. In fact, in olden days it was a way of ensuring financial security for the bride.

5) Beauty: Arranged marriage is about suitability and compatibility. Beauty can easily take a back seat. Your intended need not be as dashing as Tom Cruise or as charming as Kate Winslet. Looks are important but not the most important thing.

6) Understanding: Now, this is the million dollar question: how can you understand a person in just one or two meets? At times a lifetime seems less to truly understand someone. It is here that you should share your feelings about the person with your very close friends or may be siblings.

7) Observe Etiquettes: Yes, there are some set codes of conduct that society at large expects you to follow. For example, do sufficient background research about the person before consenting to meet. Answering in negation after having met twice or thrice may be detrimental to the person’s self confidence.

8) Take Advice: Feel free to take advice from those you feel will be able to guide you in the best possible way. Do not make a show of your feelings but then do not go about it unsolicited.

9) Final Decision: Do not just marry a girl or a guy just because your parents or friends asked you to. It has to be your own decision and you will be responsible for whatever happens later in the life.

10) Commitment: Arranged marriages are based on commitment and it is the most necessary element that keeps a relationship going.

MUkkulathor

MUkkulathor
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The Mukkulathor community (“people of the three clans”[1]) is native to the central and southern districts of Tamil Nadu, India.[2] Their name references three communities, being the Kallar, Maravar, Agamudayar[3] which make up this large endogamous social group. This united social jati is formed on the basis of parallel professions, though their locations and heritages are wholly separate from one another.

Maravar
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Maravar (Tamil: மறவர்) also “Maravan” (meaning “Grateful Warrior”, “Punisher”) are one of the oldest social groups in India. The writers of the Sangam Age place them in rural settlements withdrawn from cities. Maravars are the courageous breed and were involved in all the major wars that Tamilnadu witnessed. Kottravai(Durga), the goddess of Maravars worshipped in Palai region prescribed in Silapathikaram. The Kingdom of Ramnad was a Maravar kingdom and was ruled by the Setupati Kings[8]. Ramanathapuram and Sivagangai districts are Maravar homeland from ancient times in addition ancient name of Madurai is known as Maravar Boomi and the entire Southern districts of Tamilnadu is Maravar stronghold.

Origin of Maravar’s (Different School of thoughts)
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The Maravar have close relation with Kalabhars ( some say this tribe is early descendant of Kallars) even though they Maravars are a non-aryan, non-Kalabhar group. Kalabhars were hardcore Jain preacher’s and great ferocious warriors.Many maravar’s from coastal Land started migrating to cities and towns that were ruled by kalabhar’s. In addition many Maravar’s converted from hinduism to jainism in order to get prominence in the Kalabhar goverment.Some claim this is how maravars together with paravars (fisherman) became the latter Pandyan Kings..As the early Pandyan Kings were Nadars(not so sure on this)..Generally Paravars are akin to Maravars. They were ancient rulers of Pandya kingdom of coastal land and inland from the First Sangam Tamil age. Apart from this , they were 2 among the 11 coastal tribes(together with Eliyar(kallar) that ruled Naga Naadu , present day Jaafna, Srilanka and they are ultimately from the Tamil Naga Tribe.Their leaders were given the title “Meenavan” and “Pandyan” respectively. Edgar Thurston (1855-1935) a British museologist and ethnographer identified the use of the boomerang by Kallars and Maravars of South India. Maravars are very brave, warlike, fierce martial group and were involved in almost all the major battles and wars that ancient Tamilakkam witnessed. Maravars are found predominantly in the Southern districts of Tamilnadu viz., Tirunelveli, Madurai, Theni, Dindigul, Sivagangai, Ramanathapuram, Thanjavur, Thiruvarur, Pudukottai, Virudhunagar, Thoothukudi and Kanyakumari districts of Tamil Nadu. The Southern martial arts of Kalarippayattu, Silambam, Varma Kalai have been practiced primarily by Maravars, Kallars, Gounders and Nairs of South India. But during the 18th and 19th centuries, most of the Maravars were assimilated in to the Tamil Padam Nair subcaste of the Nair community. The Maravar regiment of the Travancore army was known as “Maravar Padai”, which supplemented Nair Pattalam, the larger indigenous military unit. Tamil Padam Nair is recognized as a part of the Malayala Kshatriya social grouping.

SUBCASTE of MARAVAR & their KILAI SYSTEM
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Kilai system ((branches)
*The Killai is inherited from mother. So a boy or girl will not marry in their same Killai. It is assumed that they are brother & sister. Such a practice is no longer prevailing amongst the maravars today as most of them are unaware of their kilai system today.

1. Sembinaattu Maravar / Cholzha maravar
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a) Seetha Ramar Maravar Kilai
b) Nalu Kottai Maravar kilai
c) Katra Maravar kilai
d) Marikka maravar kilai
e) Picha Maravar kilai
f) Thondaiman Maravar kilai
g) Thanicha Maravar kilai
h) Karuputhra Maravar kilai

2. Appanaadu KandayamKottai Maravar
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* This is the only Maravar subcaste(Appanaadu KandayamKottai Maravar) that uses Kotthu” (main branch of tree) being higher order unit of Killai. There were four kothu as follows,

i) Milagu’ (Pepper).
ii) Vetrilai’ (Betel Leaf).
iii) Mundiri’ (Cashew Nut).
iv) Sirakka’ (Cumin/Fennel).

a) Maurvidu Maravar Kilai
b) Viramuditanki Maravar Kilai
c) Setar Maravar Kilai
d) Akatiyar Maravar Kilai
e) Seyankondar Maravar Kilai
f) Nattumannar Maravar Kilai
g) Alakar Pandiayan Maravar Kilai

3) Ilam Maravar
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This is one of the Subcaste in the Maravar Clan.
They mainly found in Singampuneri(Anjaal Naadu), Sivagangai, Tamil Naadu. It’s a home region of a martial class of people known as ‘Ilamaravar’ or ‘Ilamagar. Generally According to many famous Historian’s likr Dr Jeya Bharathi from Malaysia, there is no such thing as “ilam maravar”. They named themsleves like that quite recently. They are known as ILamagar. also ILamugar. But never ILa Maravar. They are a warrior agriculture class and were specially trained in warfare and martial arts by the professional trainers called panikkars from kerala. They are also partly connected to the Chera nadu. They were given the caste title as ambalam or amplar because of the association with the Kallar naadu..Today there are part of our Mukkulathor community(Maravar).

4) Anjukottu Maravar
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1) Tathuvandar
2) Manoharan
3) Tondayaman
4) Veeran
5) Amara
6) Vadakkai

5) Karana Maravar
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1) Deva
2) Pandayan
3) Paruvachan
4) Valattan
5) Murungathini
6) Rayar

6) Agathu Maravar
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7) Uppu Katti Maravar
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8)Kurinchi Katti Maravar
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9) Vanni Kutti / Vanniya pandhara Maravar
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10) Kalla Maravar
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11) Siru Thali Katti Maravar & Peruthali Katti Maravar
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12) Karumaravar
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13) Christian Maravars
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14) Jain Maravars
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Title or Pattam’s used among MARAVAR
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1. Thevar & Maravan / Maravar
2.Valangai maran
3. Vilangu Thevan
4. Vetchi
5. Karanthai
6. Thevan / Thevar / Devar
7. Puli maran
8. Gora maran
9. Madurai Thevan
10. Thumbai
11. Komban
12. Vallai Thevan
13. Neela maran
14. Pattamkatti
15. Thalumban
16. Purayar
17. Kottravaien Sayon ( Maravar’s who worship Durgai)
18. Alakiya Pandiyan
19. Maran
20. Veyyon
21. Ninkondan

***The above article is based on

1) Maravar Charitram (1938) by Asirvatha Udaiyar Thevar and Muventarkula

2) Thevar Samugha Varalaru (1976)

3) Caste and Tribes of Southern India published by British museologist Edgar Thurston and K. Rangachari in 1909.

Notable People From Maravar

1) Pasumpon Muthu Ramalinga Thevar
2) Sethupathy’s  of Ramnad
3) Poolith Thevar
4) Actor Muthuraman
5) V.T Sambanthan (Tun Thirunyanasambanthan Thevar s/o Veerasamy Thevar 5th president of MIC in Malaysia.
6) Mr.Sharmalan Thevar (Founder of Malaysian Mukkulathor in Facebook)
7) Actor Karthick Muthuraman

8)Actor Gowtham Muthuraman
9) Maraavarman Sundara Paandiyan
10. Sedappatti Muthaiyah
11. Dr.Sethuraman (Chairman, Meenakshi Mission Hospital and Research Centre, Madurai & Owner of  Meenakshi Bhawan Chain of Restaurant in Madurai.