Pollachi Case: “I thought you are my friend. I trusted you”
How did these men build trust on their victims?
How does one who meet someone on Facebook build trust?
First is following, second friend request, third, liking posts, fourth sending private messages, fifth Constant contact over chat. Graduating to WhatsApp with phone number sharing. Starting from “Hi, how are you today?” And slowly but progressively Sharing one’s life. Men share what women want to hear. Women share everything.
What lessons on using social media have we learned?
1. Social media is dangerous in the hands of women who are unable to distinguish between safe and unsafe connections
2. Men are following you online because they think you are great looking, sexy, and attractive. Wrong. They are following to see if you are “gettable”
3. More male followers you have, the more admirers you have. Wrong. There are more people who believe you are vulnerable.
4. Men find you on social media through search engine and find their “prey”: who next to target? True. The search feature allows location wise searching but most targets are found through friend’s friends. So beware of who are your friends’ friends.
5. When someone sends you a text message, you must respond. Wrong. Never respond unless you know the person, Male or female.
6. Female friends are “safe” connections. Wrong. Some males pose as females on social media to gain your friendship.
7. All my friends are known to me for many years and are safe connections. Wrong. People grow and change. Some get into bad ways and make bad connections. So even if you trust your friend, beware of connections she has.
8. I can share all my pictures on Facebook. True but be selective and restrict only few friends can see some of them.
9. I trust men who are “open” with me. The more “open” a man is, the more “open” you become and he knows everything about you. Never fall for “open” ness among men.
10. Basic rules on social media are:
a) Never chat with strangers.
b) Never reveal or exchange phone numbers, or address;
c) Never share updates or whereabouts publicly, never share location updates with men you meet online or offline;
d) never share intimate pictures,
e) never burst out on social media and allow someone to know your vulnerability and take advantage of your weakness.
f) Your “Facebook” is a revelation of your life, thoughts, activities, opinions, and lifestyle. Choose what you want to share with whom.