How to Prevent Your Kids from Becoming Spoiled
Raising children is not an easy task, because different things, small and large, can affect them and shape the people they will become. It is only natural that as parents, we sometimes make mistakes that eventually enable us to learn how to act in the future, but unfortunately, some of these mistakes can have far-reaching effects and make our children spoiled, both as toddlers and as adults. In order not to fall into the parental traps that make our children spoiled, it’s important to identify problematic behavior in children and cut it out at the root.
These are the 8 things that make children spoiled that you have to stop doing now to prevent them from becoming spoiled adults!
- You explain things to your children too much
When you give your children reasons and explanations for what you ask of them, they mimic this behavior and do exactly as you do. Sentences like “If you don’t clean up your room you won’t find anything in the mess,” make children think they a reason is needed for everything and they’ll come back at you in the same currency with questions like “Why do I have to clean my room, it’s just going to get messy again anyway? This mechanism of question-answer-reason will cause each parent to become confused, flustered, eventually succumb to the child’s will, which as a result will make them think they need a reason for everything they are asked to do. By winning the arguments and getting what they want, the child will become spoiled.
What’s the solution?
In order to solve the problem of argumentation, you must be assertive and make your child understand that there are certain things that need to be done even if we don’t want to do them, like cleaning the room. Give them clear instructions, without negotiating such as, “You have to clean your room before you watch TV.” To make it easier to stand up for yourself, adopt general phrases that you can use in a variety of areas, such as “In this family, everyone needs to clean their room” so that the child understands that there are clear rules and you don’t have to give a reason for everything.
- You buy too many things for your children
A clear sign for overly spoiled children is a demand for things they “can’t live without.” This happens when children “pester” us about something they want from a certain store, and we give in to them because it is simpler than starting an argument. If your child starts throwing a tantrum and you give in to it, they learn that all they have to do to get what they want is to make a little fuss. Another factor of raising spoiled kids is the fact that sometimes we buy things for our children to make them happy, and when it becomes a habit they don’t appreciate it as much as they did in the past. It also robs them of the joy of waiting for something that will take them time to receive and the joy they feel when getting a unique gift.
What’s the solution?
If you are going to shop with your kids, prepare them in advance for the purpose of the trip, saying for example: “We’re going to the toy store to buy a gift for your cousin.” If your children make a fuss, ignore them and continue with your plan. It is important to make it clear to them that they will receive gifts on special occasions and not whenever they feel like a new toy. So if, for example, they ask you to buy them a specific toy, tell them, “We can add it to your birthday wish list.” In addition, try to provide your children with positive experiences that are not related to physical objects, such as joint activities inside and outside the home, so that they don’t depend on material things to make them happy.
- You give your children too much attention
Sometimes, in trying to make our children feel special, we make them feel like they’re the only person in the room and all the attention should be directed at them. If your child tries to attract your attention in any situation and you give into them, such as during a conversation with another parent in the playground, for example, it may be problematic and make them spoiled. It is important to make children feel special and loved, but we can’t always be so readily attentive towards them, doing so will eventually cause them to think that the focus should always be on them. “It’s never too early to tell your child, ‘You’re very important, but we’re all important,'” says Dr. Sal Severe, a school psychologist.
What’s the solution?
In addition to explaining the importance of other people, it is important that you don’t give your children too much individual attention. Explain to them situations where they shouldn’t disturb you such as, “When you see that I’m on the phone, do not interrupt me,” and when they can say what they’d like, “I’ll talk to you as soon as I finish the conversation.” In the meantime, think about what you want to do after I finish.” Look for opportunities to show them that other people are also important; “I’m sure what you have to say is very interesting but now we want to hear about Grandma’s trip.”
- You are helping your children too much
“Mom, I’m thirsty! Bring me water!” This is a sentence that many parents are familiar with, and although there are times when our children actually do need help, you don’t have to rush to them every time they ask for something. The reason they do this is that they’ve gotten used to you helping them with every little thing, even at an age when they can already do things on their own. Many times this happens to parents unconsciously, so it’s important to be alert to this behavior and learn to let your children do things themselves once they are able to, otherwise they can become lazy, unmotivated adults.
What’s the solution?
“The only way to deal with feelings of frustration is to experience them,” says Prof. Dan Kindlon, a psychologist at Harvard University, “so stand by and let your child deal with the waiting.” Tell them, “I’m busy now, but I’ll help you after I finish cleaning the kitchen.” When you do this, emphasize to your child that he or she can do what they want on their own with sentences like “I’m sure a big boy like you who goes down the slide alone can also butter his own toast.” When you do this, your children will understand that there are things they can handle on their own and thus they can become independent adults with the ability to cope with challenges.
- You let inconsiderate behavior slide
“They’re just kids” is a sentence spoken by many parents, but these three words can have a negative and far-reaching effect that can make them spoiled and inconsiderate. There is indeed a stage in infancy that children are not yet aware of their environment, but when they learn to speak and communicate, it is important to make them understand that their words have an effect on others’ feelings. Don’t forgive them for phrases such as “But I wanted a Barbie!” When they get clothing as a birthday gift, for example.
What’s the solution?
It is not enough to say “that’s rude,” since it is important that you make your child understand how other people feel. Teach them to put themselves in the other’s shoes: “How do you think you would feel if you spent all afternoon preparing a gift for your aunt only for her to say ‘That’s not what I wanted!’?”. Make them clarify their position in a dignified and pleasant way so that they learn to be thoughtful people. For example, instead of saying “I didn’t want pasta for dinner!” They’ll say sentences like “Thank you for making pasta, but that’s not my favorite food anymore. Can we make chicken nuggets sometime?”
- You don’t teach your children to share
“That’s mine!” Is a sentence spoken by quite a few children, and there is a biological reason for this; If your children refuse to share toys or hits others who try to take them, it’s because of uncontrollable impulses that make them express their feelings physically and not verbally. This becomes a problem when they continue this behavior over time and refuse to share their stuff on the playground, for example. If you forgive your children for such behavior and don’t teach them to share, they’ll just become more and more spoiled with time and refuse to share their things even when they are older.
What’s the solution?
First, it is important to understand that the reluctance to share is natural and will pass over time provided you teach your child how to do it. If your child has one favorite toy and is afraid to share it when a friend whose expected to come over, don’t force them to share that toy- instead, help them put it away and take out other toys. When your child refuses to share toys that are not their own, on the playground, for example, intervene and tell them that others should also be allowed to enjoy the toys and make sure they actually share. The child may be slightly angry, but it will pass and they’ll learn to share and not feel that everything belongs exclusively to them.
- You entertain your children every time they demand it
Children enjoy playing different games and taking part in activities that are appropriate for their age, and it is
nice to do so with them, but if you overdo it, you’ll become the main source of entertainment for them. It will make them spoiled and demand your time whenever they feel a bit bored.
What’s the solution?
It is important that you instill in your children the fact that they can be alone and entertain themselves even if you aren’t around them. Tell them that they are playing nicely on their own and make it clear to them that you
can’t always play with them and that they can manage by themselves. Set aside a regular time to engage in
activities with your children, and at the same time allow them to entertain themselves so that they learn to do it alone without the need for a parent around.
8. You try to make your children happy at all times
Life is not a bed of roses as we are well aware of as adults, but most of us want our children to be happy all the time. It is an unpleasant fact of life, but it is important that you understand that your children can’t be happy every second of the day, and if you try to protect them from this truth they will become spoiled and think they deserve to be happy at all times.
What’s the solution?
Making your children understand that life is difficult is one of the greatest challenges but at the same time one
of the most important in their development. In order for our children to integrate into society and cope successfully with life as adults, it is important to let them experience the difficulties that life poses. If, for example, there is a child in the kindergarten who has hurt your child’s feelings, let them process these feelings and be a sympathetic ear instead of separating them from the offending child. Explain to them in a way that they can understand that there are negative things that happen to us and must be dealt with. For example, tell them that just as a bruised knee from a fall eventually heals, so will their feelings. Emphasize that difficulties are something that needs to be dealt with and not avoided because doing so is impossible.
Parenting brings with it new challenges every day, but it is important to be consistent and not let important matters slide, for you and your children. Following these rules and tips will guarantee your children grow up to be well-rounded, and certainly not spoiled, adults!
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You will live happily ever after
You are chatting at night with her
You suddenly feel horny
You quickly ask for a nude
She says no
She asks you to understand her
You tell her to trust you
She says she can’t expose her body to anyone
You still go on.
She tells you to wait
You wait patiently
She sends it
You feel happy
You wank on it
You finish, you look at the nude again
You feel disgusted
You think its nasty after wanking on it
You then go to mobile uploads
You upload the pic with a nasty caption
You even tag her
She sees it
She sends you a message for you to delete it, she cries and begs
But you say no‼
She tells you she’ll send more if you delete that one
You say you’ve seen everything you wanted.
People start to like and react on the nude
Some start to comment bad things, some defend, some feel sorry, some laugh.
Her friends see the nude, some friends are disappointed and discriminate her, some friends defend her, but it does nothing cause everybody has seen the nude.
Some people share it
Some save and some even show her relatives
She’s toned she regrets she cries
Next day she goes to school
She finds some people booing her
She enters the class just about to sit, she’s called by the head teacher
She’s told to explain what the head teacher and the member of stuff have heard, she fails
The head teacher call her parents
They talk to the head teacher and the result is that she’s expelled ‼
The parents try to plead but the head teacher is cold hearted
She goes home
Her parents are disappointed, and they also beat her.
Her phone is taken away
Her life ruined
She tries to take a walk just to think things through
But as she’s walking people point at her
She hears them talking about the same thing
She goes back home.
Thinking too much
She decides to commit suicide as a relief
She goes to her mothers bedroom
She gets the rat poison
She quickly drinks it
Within two minutes she’s dead.
Her parents call for her
She doesn’t answer
They are mad they call again, she doesn’t answer
They quickly go to her bedroom to beat her
They find her dead with the rat poison beside her
They feel bad, they blame themselves
They cry, they regret punishing her
They call her relatives and close friends
Everybody knows and they feel sad
Her best friend cries cause she can’t believe what she sees.
The exposer also hears the news
He is toned
He regrets, he feels like going back to time
The burial day has come, her best friend and parents see the coffin lowering
they all burst in tears
They can’t believe it.
Her parents are never the same from their daughters
Everybody close to her are not the same
The exposer is being haunted with force pictures of her.
It started simple until it was too much
You can easily ruin someone’s life with something you think is simple.
Life is like electricity, Anybody can shock you.